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Here’s how to make an age-gap relationship work.";"Why Am I Attracted To Older Men? (17 Compelling Reasons) Do you find yourself consistently attracted to older men? Whether they’re a few years or even decades older
there can be something irresistible about an older man.
Unfortunately
there can be a stigma around dating older men and some people will judge you both for your relationship. Let’s look at why you might want to date an older guy
and why it’s not just as simple as “daddy issues.” I’ll also give you a few tips to make your relationship with your ‘silver fox’ more likely to succeed. Table of Contents. Key Takeaways. There are many different reasons why you might be attracted to someone older than you There are challenges associated with dating older men
but you can overcome them Talk to your partner about the challenges and face them together as a couple. Why Am I Attracted to Older Men. 1. Older men can be a source of stability. One of the attractive features of an older man can be that they give you a sense of safety and stability. If you’re naturally an anxious person or you’ve faced a lot of struggles in your life
it can be tempting to feel as though you have a partner who has life figured out. This kind of stability can include them being financially stable
which means you don’t have to worry about money as much
but this isn’t the only way that an older man can bring stability into your life. It isn’t even the main one. An older man can be more emotionally stable
offering you the opportunity to connect with someone who can handle both their own emotions and yours. This makes it easier for you to open up. Their experience means that it’s harder to surprise or shock them. They’re also less changeable than younger men
which can also feel more secure. Their personality and their likes and dislikes might be more stable than if you dated someone your own age. There’s nothing fundamentally wrong with liking stability. Lots of us want stability from our partners
no matter how old they are. The important thing is that we’re not getting into a romantic relationship solely because we want security. That wouldn’t be fair to you or your partner. Make sure that your attraction is genuine and based on more than just a desire for stability. 2. Older men are more mature. Stating the obvious
older men are more mature than younger ones. That’s pretty much the definition of maturity. That can be an attractive prospect
especially if you’ve been dating guys who have been showing their immaturity. If you’re regularly attracted to older guys for their calmness
emotional strength
and integrity
you might be someone who is attracted to maturity in men. Of course
not all older men are mature
and not all younger men are immature. Often the difficulty is that it can be harder to tell whether an older man is actually a more mature man
or whether he’s just older. 3. An older man might be more confident. Life is complicated and full of challenging situations. Most of us feel insecure about our ability to handle some (or even all) of those challenges. It’s not surprising that younger men can lack confidence in themselves and their abilities. In contrast
older men have already faced most of those challenges and they’ve dealt with them. They don’t lack confidence or feel insecure because they’ve already succeeded in life. [1] They’re also less likely to feel insecure about themselves and their identity. 4. You don’t want to allow someone too close. Another possible reason for being attracted to older guys is that you might have difficulty allowing other people to get close to you. If you see age-gap relationships as unsustainable in the long term
they can be a safe way to have a relationship without having to really commit. [2] Again
this doesn’t have to be a problem
provided that you’re aware of what you’re doing and that you’re honest with your older man about how you see your relationship progressing. For some people
it can actually be healthy to have a loving
affectionate relationship that isn’t always focused on going up the relationship escalator . 5. You’re attracted by how he feels about you. We tend to think about our partners in terms of what we want and our personal preferences. That isn’t entirely accurate
though. We’re also affected by how other people feel about us. [3] For some people
being desired can be a relationship catnip. Older men can often be even more enthusiastic and overawed by young women than younger men. They know that they’re incredibly lucky to find themselves a gorgeous younger woman. If your older man is captivated by you
and especially if he’s vocal about his appreciation
this can make him much more attractive. Being more attracted to someone because of how they feel about you isn’t a problem
as long as it doesn’t create a power imbalance between you. If they’re strongly physically attracted to you but you’re only slightly attracted to them
this can make your relationship unbalanced and unstable. 6. He’s just an incredible guy. So far
we’ve been assuming that your attraction to your older guy is because he’s older. That’s not always the case. In fact
his age might have nothing to do with your attraction. He might just be an incredible guy who ticks all of your boxes. One sign that you’re just attracted to this specific older guy rather than older men in general is that you date a wide range of ages. You’re responding to the individual people
rather than specific expectations or qualities. 7. An older man can be an unselfish lover. If you’ve dated older men in the past
you might have discovered one of the big advantages of going older
older men are often great lovers . If you haven’t dated older men
this might sound surprising. Younger men will usually be stronger and have more stamina
but (contrary to the lessons of porn) great sex doesn’t depend on being able to continue for hours on end or in gravity-defying positions. It’s about paying attention to your partner and responding to what they enjoy. Older men have usually learned this lesson. Obviously
not all older men are great in bed. Some men don’t get better with experience. They’ve just been bad in bed for longer. Those who do learn
however
can be incredible. 8.
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