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"Sometimes
I feel like his opinions are 'outdated
' but it's because he grew up in a different time than me
so I have learned to be more understanding of where he is coming from because things changed A LOT between his childhood/teen years and mine." by Devin Herenda. If you're in an age-gap relationship
there can be certain ways in which you and your partner don't exactly see things eye to eye. Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF.

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20th Century Fox Television / Via giphy.com. We recently asked folks from the BuzzFeed Community who are in relationships with large age disparities to share the biggest difference they experience with their partner. Here are some comments they submitted: 1. "I’m no longer with him
but I was in an age-gap relationship when I was 21 (female)
and he was 52 (male). We lasted around a year and a half. The biggest difference for me was actually the opposite of what you’d expect. Everyone talks about how large age gaps don’t work because you’re both in such different places
the older one is mature
ready to buy the big house and invest
career-driven and enjoying success. The younger is immature
spontaneous
doesn’t want to keep their feet on the ground. In my case
I felt like I was just getting started
and he’d given up. I was career-driven
I was chasing success
I was careful about things. He’d already done all that
and he was happy to just…chill." "He wanted to go out more and saw no real need to move to somewhere with better prospects
to learn
to progress. And that’s fine! He didn’t need to progress anymore — he’d done that. But I still had so much to do
and it made it difficult to stay on the same wavelength. Ultimately
I think he’d have followed me and been there to support me
but we had other issues
and it ended." –Anonymous
22
UK. Zgel / Getty Images/iStockphoto. 2. "I met my now-husband when I was barely 21 (I had lied about my age on Bumble
but we didn't meet until a month after I turned 21). He's almost nine years older than me and had lived three lifetimes before me
including being a military brat
going to college
being an MMA fighter
and just living on his own. I met him when he had a very successful
established job and had already done everything I was about to do way before me. I would say the biggest difference
besides him mentioning a movie he saw as a kid when I wasn't even born
is he partied and went clubbing and bar hopping for years before he met me
but by the time I met him
he was already over it and in a new stage of life. While I don't feel like I missed out because I met him at the 'perfect' time
I do feel like I don't have any 'cool' stories to tell our kid." —Natalie
25
Arizona. 3. "I am 61
and my boyfriend is 47. We have been together for 15 years
and it has been awesome
although his family has never approved. The biggest difference that I've noticed lately is I'm ready to think about retirement and moving to the next phase of life
and he is still in his prime earning years." —Anonymous
61
Maryland. Monkey Business Images / Getty Images. 4. "He (40-year-old male) doesn’t at all understand that sexuality and gender can be fluid concepts. Not in a mean or rude way
he just…doesn’t understand
no matter how I try to explain it." —Anonymous
29
Vermont. 5. "Shows/movies/music from our childhoods/teenage years. With a 16-year age gap
he hasn't seen the best of the best
e.g. Mean Girls
Disney classics
Rugrats
Bring It On . also music in general
everything I listened to in high school and middle school — he is remembering club days in Vegas." —Anonymous
30
CO. Cbs Photo Archive / CBS via Getty Images. 6. "He (15 years younger) is much more traditional and conservative than I am. He insists on antiquated gender roles — the man works in the yard
the woman works in the house. I thought someone younger would be more flexible
but that's not the case." —Anonymous
75
Texas. 7. "With our 11-year age gap
my husband has already retired. I've got to work for another seven years for Social Security
Medicare
my employment retirement. We didn't think of that when we married 25 years ago. He's motor-homing
and I'm still in the office. ugh." —Candee Cain
60
Santa Barbara
CA. Stígur Már Karlsson / Getty Images. 8. "My girlfriend of 1 and a half years is 11 years younger. The biggest difference is our mindset and our overall view on the world and politics
and even social situations. Things that I have grown out of or moved past
she still engages in — like clubs
bars
or going out. I also have more of a middling view on certain topics
as I think being 'wise' is seeing both sides of an issue
while she is decidedly much more one-sided in her very strong opinions on certain issues. I will say
she has opened up my eyes on being pro-choice. I used to ignorantly think that many women who have had an abortion did so with a certain 'blasГ©' attitude about it. She made me realize that most times
it is because they have to do it
lest they put their health at risk. And she's also made me realize that my own bodily autonomy is very important
so why would I expect it to be okay for 'old
white men' to tell ANY woman what to do with theirs?" 9. "My husband is 15 years older and uses words or phrases that I've never even heard out of my parents or grandparents. In all fairness
he's well-read and has a big vocabulary. When I look up the meaning
I always find that he used the word/phrase correctly." —Jaclyn S. 40
Sacramento
CA. The Good Brigade / Getty Images. 10. "Sex life. Threesomes are requested
anal sex
sexual desires that are spontaneous. There is a 15-year difference between us
sometimes causing heads to clash because we are from different generations." —Anonymous
25
New York. 11. "My husband is 12 years older than me
I am in my mid-30s
and he is pushing 50. The biggest differences I notice are when it comes to our opinions on certain things
sometimes
I feel like his opinions are 'outdated
' but it's because he grew up in a different time than me
so I have learned to be more understanding of where he is coming from because things changed A LOT between his childhood/teen years and mine." Tim Robberts / Getty Images. 12. "My husband is eight years older than me
which isn’t significant
but it seemed so when we met. He was 30
and I was 22
but we happened to be in the same stages and phases in life despite that age difference. He was finally ready to settle down
and I was once I found the right person. It’s been over 20 years now
and the only problem with our age difference is when he talks about things he did when he was young
and we realize I was an infant
or in kindergarten
or in middle school. It’s weird but also a little silly. And of course
when I talk about being a kid
and he was basically an adult already." "Now that our kids are all older
he’s getting ready to retire
and we’re really looking forward to him living a long
full
young retirement — a whole new life together! He has some health issues now that he’s in his 50s
and I’ve been a stay-at-home mom due to a lifetime of chronic illness and ongoing health issues myself
but we’re taking care of each other now and learning to navigate this next phase.













my boyfriend is 10 years older