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He's 43. Can People Stop Judging Our Age Gap? His friends make "jokes" about me being a child bride.

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June 13
2025. Q: I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 43. We met on Hinge a year ago and just instantly clicked. Most of the time
I don't notice the 18-year age gap
but weird little things do pop up sometimes — like
on 9/11
he was in college and I was 4 months old. Overall
though
this is the best relationship I've ever had. Unlike guys my own age
he treats me like a queen
we almost never fight
and I can trust him completely. But I can tell people are judging us. His friends make "jokes" about me being a child bride. Mine keep saying he's old enough to be my dad. I'm sick of people being so hung up on the age gap
ignoring all the good parts of the relationship
and not taking us seriously. Deep down
I know it's not really an even playing field — he gives me life advice
and he pays for almost everything. I do sometimes feel like a kid by comparison. But is that actually a problem? I know we'd have a really nice life together. A: There is one concept
one creed so important that Bon Jovi
Gwen Stenfani
and Billy Joel have all sung about it: “It’s my life.” (Technically
Billy sang “this is my life” and Gwen was doing a cover
but the point still stands.) At the end of the day
you are required only to answer to yourself. So if this relationship works for you
keep on truckin’! However
I think you’ll benefit from considering why people judge older guys dating women in their early/mid-20s. There is a very well-documented pattern of that situation turning out… not so well. For starters
this kind of age gap tends to appeal to a certain kind of man. They know that women their own age are less likely put up with a partner who doesn’t “do” anniversaries
or gets mean after the Knicks lose. The defense frequently given by these men is that their younger girlfriend is “mature for her age.” Personally
I remain unconvinced that their desire is intensified by clear boundaries
self-actualization
and yearly appointments to check for suspicious moles. Let’s be real — they’re seeking youth
and they’re only looking for that from women. How many 43-year-old guys have 25-year-old male friends? While women in their early/mid-20s are some of our strongest soldiers
and I love them dearly
I know they’ll undoubtedly become even wiser and more self-assured over time. However
this type of maturing is not always the type certain men value. You will never get to be 25 again. This is the time to have conversations at parties about securing Kendrick tickets
not swapping recs for a good local handyman. Additionally
in situations like these
the relationship’s balance often means the younger
less-established person falls into the older person’s lifestyle (no roommates
no student loan debt) than the other way around. Your boyfriend may not be like this
but there are older guys who don’t want to do 25 year-old things. They’ve already done them. Instead
they’d like you to slot into their world — which seems wonderful because they usually have more money and nicer housing. And then you start living like a 43-year-old when you are 25. That’s very
very fun for a week or a month or a year. Who doesn’t love walk-in closets and kitchen islands? Who doesn’t love a weekend in Palm Springs? Who doesn’t love fancy work-event dinners where the bill is covered and the bar is open? But are you still going to bars where the floors are sticky? Are you traveling solo? Is he hanging out with your friends as often as you hang out with his? Are your career plans changing to better serve his? Consider how you navigate his needs. Does he put in equal effort to fulfill yours? Does he watch Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and go to wine tastings with you — or are you only kayaking and watching Andor ? Do you need to scoot out of work early because he makes dinner reservations at 6:30 instead of 7? Does he expect that paying for things means he gets more say? I’m making sweeping generalizations here
of course. But these are common occurrences and they’re part of why people take issue with big age gaps. If you feel like you’re doing equal work to be in each other’s lives
then wonderful. You’re golden. But as a reminder: you will never get to be 25 again. (Very messed up
I still haven’t come to terms with this myself.) This is the time to have conversations at parties about securing Kendrick tickets
not swapping recs for a good local handyman
to pack six people into a single hotel room for a wedding
to occasionally babysit for your undergraduate thesis advisor. If the cost of being with the love of your life is a few jokes
that’s a very low price to pay. So make like Thoreau and "live deep and suck out all the marrow of life.” If that means being with your boyfriend forever
fabulous. If that means being with your boyfriend for now
delightful. If that means leaving
even with all the love you share? Bittersweet but exhilarating. I’ll meet you at the weird basement bar down the street for the $5 beer + shot combo. From what you said
it seems like your friends aren’t too concerned about your relationship. Otherwise
I think they’d say that rather than teasing you about how your boyfriend was alive when Thriller was released. My recommendation
should you stay
is to try to have a sense of humor about it. If the cost of being with the love of your life is a few jokes
that’s a very low price to pay. As Mary Oliver and Pitbull so helpfully remind us
life is fleeting. All you can do is make the most of it. If that means being with this guy
then be with him. Enjoy it. Ignore the jokes — or better yet
embrace them as evidence that there aren’t bigger concerns about your relationship. It’s A Pleasure appears here once a month. If you have a sex
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