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People often think that older adults fall in love less intensely
without the giddiness and sheen of youthful infatuation. But falling in love as an older person involves the same group of neurons in our brain as it does in younger adults
researchers say. That
however
may be where the similarity between young and older dating ends.
Dating over 50 certainly has its challenges — the pool of potential dates is smaller than in our younger years
and many older adults struggle to find connection. But relationship experts and over-50 daters say there are surprising benefits. There’s no pressure to procreate or find the perfect future parent. Many people in the pool are divorced or widowed
bringing with them hard-won lessons about how not to behave in a relationship. And older daters tend to know what they want — and understand the dealbreakers — allowing them to be more selective. “People at 50 know there’s a good chance that they will live another 30 years
” said Francine Russo
author of “Love After 50: How to Find It
Enjoy It
and Keep It.” “And if they’re in a relationship which is not satisfying
they think
‘I don’t want this
I want something better for myself.’” About 30 percent of adults over 50 are single
according to a Pew Research Center survey in the United States in 2022. The numbers may partly be explained by the climbing divorce rate among older Americans. Many of these older singles are dating
1 in 6 Americans 50 and older have used a dating site or app
according to Pew. Even pop culture is getting into the older dating game. This Thursday
ABC will debut “The Golden Bachelor
” featuring Gerry Turner
a 72-year-old widower from Indiana. Several women over 60 will compete for his affection
and enthusiasts say they hope the show will break social barriers around dating for older adults. Easy wins
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based in New York
had little experience dating. She had been married twice — first at 21 to a man she met in Europe (“I wasn’t looking for him
and there he was
” she said) and then in her early 30s to a man she met at work. Still
she was certain that she wanted to meet someone. “I knew what it was like to be loved and to love
” she said. “I was missing that experience and that kind of special frisson that one has in a relationship that is romantic and sensual and companionate.” About two years after her husband’s death
Kramer decided to try dating apps. “I went into online dating more as a kind of research
to see who’s out there and what they are about
” Kramer
now 77
said. “I find people interesting. It wasn’t out of desperation
I just wanted to see who there was to meet.” The physiological experience of falling in love doesn’t change as we age
said biological anthropologist Helen Fisher
who has conducted several studies about romantic love. The love system is a “brain system like the anger system or the fear system or the surprise system
” she said
noting that just like you experience anger at
say
14 and 74
you can fall in love at any age. “This is a basic drive
and it doesn’t really change.” When people fall in love
a group of neurons in the ventral tegmental area of the brain gets activated and releases dopamine
a neurotransmitter that plays a role in feelings of elation
focus
motivation
optimism and energy that can characterize love
to several brain regions
Fisher said. In one 2007 study
Fisher and her co-researchers scanned the brains of 17 people in their 50s and 60s. All the participants were in long-term marriages and reported that they were still madly in love with their partners. “Sure enough
the basic brain region and pathways linked with feelings of intense romantic love were just as active in people over 50 as they were among the people that we put in the machine who were in their 20s
” Fisher said. Humans have evolved three brain systems for mating and reproduction — sex drive
feelings of intense romantic love and feelings of deep attachment — Fisher said. As people age
their sex drive begins to reduce
but the intense romantic love and attachment apparently do not
she said. People who date at older ages often are looking for different qualities than when they were younger. “When people are in their 20s
they are looking for a life partner
in most cases a parent for their children and a person with whom to make their fortune
” Russo said. “Younger people might seek out partners with certain educational backgrounds
social class
religion or income level
in hopes of building long-term wealth and family. They may want to date people with qualities that meet expectations set for them by the parents or their peers.” When you’re older
have an income and lifetime of experience
and are no longer intending or able to have children
those qualities don’t necessarily matter as much. “Those boxes people tick off on dating websites
this religion
this level of education
this kind of income
most of that does not matter
” said Russo
a journalist who interviewed dozens of couples and experts while researching her book. As an older person
“you are looking for certain emotional qualities
a certain kind of chemistry
Russo said. Really
what you’re looking for is a companion
a lover and a friend.” Twice widowed herself
Russo tried to date again in her 60s. “None of my friends knew anyone to set me up with
” she said. “But then I went online and there were all these people announcing they were available.” Older people tend to know themselves better and can more easily suss out when something may not feel right. Russo met her partner of seven years when she was 68. “I knew what I was looking for
I knew what I didn’t want
” she said. “When I told him the story about the deaths of my husbands
tears formed in his eyes
and he touched my hand. It just clicked.” Kramer
who has been with her partner since last September
primarily met people over video chat before seeing them in person. “I did not want to waste my time sitting and having meaningless conversations with people
” she said. “I wanted to get a sense of
‘can I laugh with this person
do we get each other
was there chemistry
an emotional chemistry that resonated with this person.’ I wanted to see
‘could I imagine kissing this person?’” “If I couldn’t imagine it
well
it was nice talking to you
” Kramer said. Older daters are pickier than younger ones
Fisher said
even though the dating pool gets smaller with age. In a 2011 study she did for Match
she found that younger men were more likely than older men to choose a partner they weren’t sexually attracted to or madly in love with
a phenomenon she attributes to the reproductive drive. “My hypothesis is that the young have to reproduce. They have to have babies
and so they’re going to be more likely to compromise
” she said. “After your reproductive years are over
you’re less likely to compromise.” Older daters also say there’s less pressure in dating.
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