Dating someone twenty years older

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Article about dating someone twenty years older:
Age gap relationships are nothing new — a 2022 study showed that in 40% of opposite-sex marriages
the husband was
on average
three years older than his wife. However
some age gaps are MUCH wider
with one partner being several decades older than the other. But
with these "age-gap" relationships
there are often discussions of power imbalances and general inappropriateness.

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Westend61 / Getty Images/Westend61. So when Redditor u/anontar4 asked the r/AskWomen community
Hey ladies, to those of you who’ve dated someone 20 years older- how did it go, and what was your experience? women were willing to share how a massive age gap impacted their romantic relationships (for better or worse). Without further ado
here are 15 of their most enlightening stories: 1. "I was 19. He told me he was 24
but as I later learned
he was 36. I couldn’t tell because he was hot
muscular
and looked VERY young for his age. To convince me he was 12 years younger
he had to lie about many other aspects of his life. After a few months
I discovered the truth and dumped him." Mixmike / Getty Images. "After we broke up
he began dating a 16-year-old! I told her and her parents the truth
but they ignored me — those two are still together." 2. "I was 26
he was 47. We connected intellectually
and the intimacy was great. Still
he tried to be controlling and dominating and called me 'difficult' if I didn't go along with what he wanted." "He would try to pull the 'I'm older and wiser' card about nearly every subject — including those in which I had expertise and he did not. Despite being physically older
he was emotionally immature. He would refuse to discuss any issue between us and insisted on talking about only pleasant things and moving forward. When I called him out on his awful behavior
he would pout and say he was sorry
like a toddler. I ended it after five months." 3. "I was 23
he was 46. Our relationship was mostly good
so I married him." 'I think it helped that neither of us were cool — by that
I mean that nerds are ageless. If you're the type of person to geek out over movie trivia
the etymology of a particular word
or 19th-century authors
the age of your fellow geek doesn't matter. I lost him far too young
and I still miss him." 4. "He was my sugar daddy. He paid me decently and was respectful and kind. Still
he eventually broke up with me because he couldn’t handle his jealousy about me having other partners (even though both of us were polyamorous and had other partners at the time
which we had both agreed was fine)." Burke/Triolo Productions / Getty Images. "I’ve learned that I have difficulty connecting with men over 40 because they don’t tend to ask questions and never act engaged (in my experience). They also remind me of my dad
which brings many discomforts." 5. "I was 19
and he was 35 — not exactly 20 years older
but close! He was definitely into me because I was so young
and I tried to pretend that wasn’t the case
but it became very apparent. We were never 'official' because of his immaturity — he always complained about me being the immature one
even though I was practically still a child." "He was a gamer and spent most of his time doing that — it was more important than our relationship in his eyes
if I got upset about anything
it was always because of my age. HE wanted ME first
mind you. Now I’m 23
and I would still like to date someone a bit older since boys my age are terrible
but I don’t want to date someone who only likes me because I’m young." 6. "If they're sincere
you will always be their little darling." "Our age gap wasn't 20 years —I was 23
he was 36
but he was the love of my life. Our marriage didn't end happily ever after
but he was the love of my life
regardless. We made love daily
and he satisfied me every time. I spent 10 years of my life with him
but sadly
we went our separate ways — mostly because we didn't 'grow' together." 7. "I started dating significantly older men in my late 20s (I was 28
he was 67). Honestly
the relationship was wholesome and a much-needed reprieve from my hectic life at the time." PixelsEffect / Getty Images. "He was in great shape
charismatic
grounded
and treated me like a queen. I had moved back home and was struggling to figure out my next move in a toxic family environment. I ended up moving away
but he and I are still on good terms. Being mature is a choice
just as staying young at heart is. The age gap — coupled with us both being aware this was a transition stage for me — made us appreciate the present. I’ve since dated other older men (mid-50s) but have dialed it back because I noticed they were planning much further in the future than I was comfortable with
and I didn’t want to string them along. Now
I mostly date men who are 38-50 because I like them a little weathered
but not so much that I can’t take the relationship seriously — anything older and I can’t help but think
'He could die at any moment
don’t get attached.'" 8. "My husband and I got together when I was 20 and he was 40 — we have been together for 16 years.













dating someone twenty years older